Kingdom Come

When in 2013 the DSM-5 replaced Gender Identity Disorder and replaced it with Gender Dysphoria there was a backlash from some quarters for putting any gender identity issue in the diagnostic manual at all.

• “There is some controversy around the inclusion of gender dysphoria within the diagnostic manuals, as it may inadvertently pathologize gender variance through its inclusion in this manual.
• Minority stress is seen systemically through the chronic violence toward transgender and gender nonconforming individuals, high rates of homelessness, underemployment, and poor medical care for these individuals.
• the dysphoria is not the result of the individual’s gender identity itself.

And that opened the door to a flood of newly acceptable sexual variants that effectively removes these behaviors from consideration as being, at baseline, “at risk for danger to self or others“.

The very definition of LGBTQUIA is updated constantly so current definition has to be learned via an online glossary collectively built by the LGBTQUIA Resource Center since the early 2000’s: “always evolving and changing and often mean different things to different people.”

Instead, these behaviors are now viewed as the result of social discrimination which must be resolved, like racial discrimination, by social support of the individual’s sense of self, and  the solution is that society must transforms itself into a radically sexually diverse culture.

What if this cause – effect perspective is wrong? As detailed in the previous post, there is no medical, sociological, historical, political or otherwise scientifically factual foundation for this massive world-wide tectonic shift while there are thousands of years of received wisdom warning against it.

While stated as a factual relationship of cause (discrimination) and effect (severe depression), the association of mental and social problems with society’s disapproval of this behavior is statistically a simple correlation. We find one occurring with the other.  There is no proof that disapproval is the major reason for mental and social problems, simply a biased opinion that that is the case.

The following fact-based perspective from experience contrasts sharply with the social scientists’ failure to engage in scientifically conducted research.

Written 2023

Gay men in America currently enjoy more freedom and acceptance than at any time in our nation’s history. But while not everyone in the gay community is willing to admit it, there is a significant “party” culture that inhabits the homosexual community in America and still lies outside the mainstream of American culture…high levels of drug abuse and drug addiction are common among these nightlife scenes – where a more hedonistic spirit dominates the environment…a community with a heavy night-life scene – and drugs available at every turn…

the “Party and Play” scene has been growing in popularity over the past decade…generally organized on Craigslist or other websites feature intense drug taking and sex with multiple partners. Crystal meth and ecstasy are the drugs of choice…because of their psychotropic effects, and in the case of crystal meth, their ability to help people stay awake well into the night and prevent ejaculation during sex…

there is a “community feel” to the use of crystal meth and other drugs…that makes it difficult for many gay men to abstain or seek out drug rehab treatment. Many rehab facilities report high levels of relapse among gay men because they fear being ostracized from their peer groups or being unable to take part in the social activities that they enjoy. Because drug addiction is a group problem, it is up to the gay community as a whole to change the behavior of its citizens. Until this community stands up and says “crystal meth is bad” in a committed, organized way, the levels of addiction – and subsequent health problems – will continue on at a high level.

The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) describes abstinence as the “safest approach for those with substance use disorders.”[1] Abstinence is the most common form of addiction treatment in the nation.[2]

Contrast with the gay lifestyle plan to use drugs “safely” while under the influence of the drugs. This is straight up delusional. I would know. I’m paid to diagnose delusions in state hospitals and other acute psychiatric facilities.

Everything You Need to Know About Poppers and How to Stay Safe

Their popularity among the LGBTQ+ community has made them as much of a cultural artifact as a widely-used drug. Who can forget this video of Charli XCX holding a signed a bottle of Rush brand poppers and yelling “GAY RIGHTS!”? From their frequent appearance in the original Queer as Folk to their strong presence at Pride events and gay clubs, poppers are well embedded in queer spaces.

Within queer communities, poppers are best known for their use during sex. When their fumes are inhaled, they can relax smooth muscle tissue, including the muscles found in the vagina and anus, making anal sex easier and, for some, more pleasurable.

Ahh, that’s the politically correct way of saying less painful.

Do you like getting jackhammered till your hole is raw?Do you take pleasure in your partner’s pain—turned on by their moans during rough sex?

what makes our community tick when it comes to pain between the sheets.

• 86%) who bottomed said that they had at some point experienced pain when bottoming.
• 9% said they had never experienced pain,
• 1% said they “didn’t know,” (One supposes they were too high. Not safe.)
• Most people (64%) who have ever topped said that they have had a partner stop them during sex because it hurt too much.
• About half of people said that they have never enjoyed pain during anal sex.
• 36% said that they have enjoyed pain during anal sex.
  • “I enjoy the pain because it puts me in a submissive head space. I feel like I’m being used for someone else’s pleasure.”
  • as the result of pinching/twisting/hair pulling/flogging/restraint that is part of sex but not from anal penetration
  • “Fast, deep ‘pounding’ rough sex with pain as the side effect
  • the intensity is high and my senses feel like they’re on overload
  • aroused by a partner’s pain / submission(“I like to make my bottom moan while I rough fuck him.”

We also asked for your tips on how to prevent pain during anal sex.

• LOTS of lube from the jump
• Too much lube is almost enough
• Use poppers

“As with many things in the queer healthcare wheelhouse, there is a general lack of attention and therefore evidence, especially for long term complications,” DeWitt said.

This can’t be good.

And it’s not just men.

So why pursue the high-risk gay lifestyle?

Compulsive sexual behavior is sometimes called hypersexuality, hypersexuality disorder or sexual addiction. It’s an excessive preoccupation with sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors that is difficult to control, causes you distress, or negatively affects your health, job, relationships or other parts of your life.

Some indications that you may be struggling with compulsive sexual behavior include:

• You have recurrent and intense sexual fantasies, urges and behaviors that take up a lot of your time and feel as if they’re beyond your control.
• You feel driven to do certain sexual behaviors, feel a release of the tension afterward, but also feel guilt or remorse.
• You’ve tried unsuccessfully to reduce or control your sexual fantasies, urges or behavior.
• You use compulsive sexual behavior as an escape from other problems, such as loneliness, depression, anxiety or stress.
• You continue to engage in sexual behaviors that have serious consequences, such as the potential for getting or giving someone else a sexually transmitted infection, the loss of important relationships, trouble at work, financial strain, or legal problems.
• You have trouble establishing and maintaining healthy and stable relationships.

The evidence is piling up that the gay lifestyle is a positive loop system that, like a rope winding around and around your body, begins with one turn, one taste, one trial of a new experience and through the dopamine rush released in the full package of experienced risk taking, drug taking, even pain, binds the gay individual not with ties to a partner who supports and empowers

For example, availability of the internet is known to have caused a surge in sex additions and grooming of children into sexual partners by pedophiles.

Actual scientific research into the LGBT… lifestyle has established factual evidence that experiences drive sexual preferences and behaviors drive compulsions.

Massive Study Finds No Single Genetic Cause of Same-Sex Sexual Behavior

And it is only behavior changes that can change any suffering caused by HIV, alienation from heterosexuals, loneliness and despair.

In my professional experience I’ve seen the horrifically destructive effects of pedophilia. I’ve advocated for greater awareness of sex trafficking of teens and young adults who get lured into then trapped in a degrading lifestyle, often for life. I’ve treated patients with PTSD who have reached the point of suicidality because they can’t live with the sexual behaviors they’ve experienced. So I was appalled when I became aware of a case where parents, counsellor and school principal immediately and without question backed a preteen’s unusual behavior to ride the crest of the latest social trend.

He had distanced himself further and further from family and society, spending all his free time shut up in his room on his computer. When he announced out of the blue that he wanted to maintain his physically blossoming male sexuality but publicly cross-dress as a female by hair style and clothing and be allowed female public bathroom use and summer camp cabin assignment, his parents and counselor enthusiastically encouraged him to pursue this lifestyle without any investigation of his reasons.

Not one adult in his life checked his online activity to see if he had been exploited by a pedophile. His mother publicized his trend-setting behavior in a local paper, promoting her blog on social trends in the process. Anyone else see a connection here? His summer camp supported his request to be housed in a female cabin without considering the wishes of the female occupants or their parents. The principal at his high school welcomed him as proof of the school’s avant guarde status in the community.

What thirteen year old knows what he wants to be when he grows up? And how many adults cringe when they look back on their yearbook photos? This is not a bad hairstyle. This is chaotically life-changing.

I have been accused of, but just as vehemently deny, that I am homophobic. I abhor abuse of any kind, including societies’ abuse of GLBT. I know how much my GLBT clients, friends, and colleagues suffer and I do whatever I can to ease their suffering by embracing them as individuals and supporting growth and development and recovery from trauma. And I know that targeting just one aspect of trauma ignores the totality of the GLBT experience as much as treating domestic violence with just an antidepressant.

Sociological and psychological studies conducted according to standard research methodology report notable findings that:

•  “Sexual promiscuity is one of the most striking, distinguishing features of gay life in America” (p. 45).  
• “Almost half of the white homosexual males…said that they had had at least 500 different sexual partners during the course of their homosexual careers,”
• 28 percent of homosexual males had had sexual encounters with one thousand or more partners
• 79 percent said more than half of their sex partners were strangers. 
• Only 1 percent of the sexually active men had had fewer than five lifetime partners.  
• “Little credence can be given to the supposition that homosexual men’s ‘promiscuity’ has been overestimated” 
• “an average several dozen partners a year”
• The homosexual pick-up system is the product of a search for efficiency and economy in attaining the maximization of numbers of partners and orgasms and the minimization of waste of time and risk of one’s advances being rejected at places known for a particular clientele and immediate consummation.
• Since part of the compulsion of homosexuality seems to be a need on the part of the homophile to “absorb” masculinity from his sexual partners, he must be constantly on the lookout for [new partners]. 
• the most successful homophile “marriages” are those where there is an agreement between the two to have affairs on the side while maintaining the semblance of permanence in their living arrangement. 
• In the gay world the only real criterion of value is physical attractiveness.
• Aging is also viewed particularly negatively in the homosexual culture,
• The young homoexual will find that his homosexual brothers usually only care for him as a sexual object. when they have satisfied their sexual interest in him, they will likely forget about his existence and his own personal needs….
• In a study undertaken to disprove the reputation that gay male relationships do not last… the researchers, a homosexual couple with a strong vested interest, were unable to find a single male couple that was able to maintain sexual fidelity for more than five years. 
• Heterosexual couples lived with some expectation that their relationships were to last “until death do us part,” whereas gay couples wondered if their relationships could survive. 
• sexual activity outside the relationship often raises issues of trust, self-esteem, and dependency.  
• “the single most important factor that keeps couples together past the ten-year mark is the lack of possessiveness they feel, yet in reality, there remains a contradictory “ intense longing for relationships with stability, sexual continuity, intimacy, love and affection”- but only one couple in her study had been able to maintain a monogamous relationship for ten years. 

These are all negative consequences of a lifestyle that intrinsically, invariably, incessantly, inevitably channels the individual into isolation, bereft of the resources only obtainable through stable relationships made and nurtured throughout a lifetime of commitments to partners and families and society.

Can’t we see the stark contrast with the benefits of relationship?

“Though I walk in the midst of trouble, thou wilt revive me: thou shalt stretch forth thine hand against the wrath of mine enemies, and thy right hand shall save me…Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me;” (Psalm 138:7, 23:4)