90) The Bonding Power Of Sex

The allure and practice of merging one’s identity with another’s is easily recognized in behaviors and images expressing solidarity in fashion, sports, politics and ethnicity.

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Marriage is the ultimate merging of two individuals’ identities into one. A marriage is considered consummated upon sexual intercourse of the married spouses.

This applies as well to the merging of one’s spirit with another.

Every religious tradition has rules—spoken and unspoken—around sexuality, and sacred texts come into play as these rules are navigated in dating and marriage. What does your faith tradition really say about the meaning of our sexuality and sexual activity? What role does sex play in the life of the spirit?

Let’s answer that question from a Bible-based perspective.

Marriage…is a sacrament in the Catholic Church; it is the union of one male to one female in order to come closer to God and is the appropriate venue in which to bear children…a sacred covenant between each spouse with each other and with God…

each spouse in the marriage acts as a conduit of God’s grace to the other spouse…Christ is the source of this grace and the spouses serve as Christ to each other.

This explanation is consistent with the interpretation of the original creation of Adam in the hermaphroditic image of God as both male and female, as detailed in the post Created In The Image Of God”. The fall changed this image, requiring the physical joining of a male and female through sexuality and reproduction to represent the fullness of the Creator. A marriage that intentionally and by God’s practices and policies includes the presence of the Holy Spirit in the union is empowered by the infinite Singularity.

There is a scientific reason why sexual activity results in releasing physical, emotional, and spiritual / life energy.

Hooked: The Bonding Power of Sex

when we do anything exciting, a hormone called dopamine is released in our brain that makes us feel like the world is good, that we have been a success…

When any of us have sexual intercourse, we have a huge outpouring of dopamine into our brains…It is the same hormone that is secreted with addiction to drugs and nicotine…

So those in a [sexually active] relationship…become attached, addicted, bonded

All of this results in actual physical changes in the brain. When these hormones flow and send their impulses, they dramatically affect connections or synapses between the neurons in the brain. Those synapses actually are strengthened when we repeat a behavior or they are weakened when we stop.

So, when you repeatedly attach and unattach with multiple sexual partners you actually weaken the ability to stay connected…

And because the same neurotransmitters are involved in sex as in drug use, sex becomes an addiction in search of that momentary sense of, at least relief, since fulfillment is no longer possible.

Sex addiction is often conceptualised as the compulsive engagement in sexual acts without any regard for the negative consequences that may arise…

#1. Sexual acts with multiple partners: Sex addicts are often unable to remain loyal to their partners due to their insatiable sexual appetites. This usually results in them engaging in risky behaviours such as cheating and engaging in sexual acts with multiple partners…

#2. Neglectful of responsibilities: Similar to any other addiction, sex addicts often put their desire for sex ahead of family commitments, job responsibilities, and pretty much anything else that isn’t sex-related. This can lead to financial difficulties, job loss, and even divorce if the neglect continues to spiral out of control.

#3. Indulging in trade-offs for sex: Almost all sex addicts are willing to trade their time and currency, particularly when illicit sex is the end game…

#4. The dismissiveness of risky sexual behaviour: What if I get caught cheating? Or contract a sexual disease from all the sleeping around?…Sex addicts might run along this emotional parallel for a while, the difference being that all the pondering in the world doesn’t stop them regardless of the consequences.

#5. Unable to reduce the amount of time spent on sexual activities: Similar to substance addiction, sex addiction is often difficult to cut down on, since over time the sexual urges become stronger, not weaker. It’s easy to detect a sex addict as they struggle to minimise the amount of time they spend on sexually related activities (also similar to gaming and internet addictions).

#6. Inability to discuss the problem: If you’ve ever tried to speak to an alcoholic about their drinking, then you’ll likely come across the same problem with a person who is addicted to sex. You’ll likely experience the same level of denial and an inability to open up and discuss the problem.

#7. Loss of sexual functioning: This is particularly prevalent in young males who tend to view a lot of porn. Since the sexual ‘high’ they experience in pornography cannot be matched with a real life partner, they often experience erectile dysfunctioning as a result. Essentially, when a male engages in porn, his dopamine levels rise to an extreme level and this conditions the body to desire those high-arousal levels. When indulging in ‘normal’ sex with a partner, this conditioning can reduce the ability to function.

#8. Displaying strong disinterest in a partner: This is perhaps the most obvious sign of a relationship problem, where one partner is keen to have sex and the other isn’t. When one half of a couple begins to withdraw from sex, this is often a sign that something deeper is going on.

#9. Constantly watching porn: Constantly engaging in porn and sexual fantasies…real-life sex often cannot live up to the type of porn scenarios that people see online or on television.

#10. Feeling remorse or guilt after sex: Shame and guilt often accompany most addictions…The type of ‘emotional hangover’ that a sex addict often experiences after engaging in risky sexual behaviour is nothing to be envied.

Speaking of sexual exploitation…

“Being queer means pushing the parameters of sex and family, and in the process, transforming the very fabric of society.”

–National Gay and Lesbian Task Force Policy director,
Paul Ettelbrick (Kurtz, 2003)

Michelangelo Signorile describes the campaign “to fight for same-sex marriage and its benefits and then, once granted, redefine the institution completely–to demand the right to marry not as a way of adhering to society’s moral codes, but rather to…radically alter an archaic institution.”…

study showed that 28 percent of homosexual males had had sexual encounters with one thousand or more partners. Furthermore, 79 percent said more than half of their sex partners were strangers…Almost half of the white homosexual males…said that they had had at least 500 different sexual partners during the course of their homosexual careers,”…

Since part of the compulsion of homosexuality seems to be a need on the part of the homophile to “absorb” masculinity from his sexual partners, [emphasis added] he must be constantly on the lookout for [new partners].

Gay life is most typical and works best when sexual contacts are impersonal and even anonymous…far more preoccupied with sex than heterosexuals are, and far more likely to think of a good sex life as many partners under many exciting circumstances….

It must be remembered that in the gay world the only real criterion of value is physical attractiveness…The young homosexual will find that his homosexual brothers usually only care for him as a sexual object.  Although they may invite him out to dinner and give him a place to stay, when they have satisfied their sexual interest in him, they will likely forget about his existence and his own personal needs[emphasis added]…

Demon-controlled humans destroy their own bodies, their families, and society through excesses of perverted sexual behaviors.

What’s the worst plague the human race has ever seen? Is it the Black Death of the middle ages — or today’s AIDS?

Black Death — bubonic plague — wiped out a third of Europe’s population in six terrible years. Over the next century [that is, 100 years keep in mind], it killed [a total of] 40 million people as it spread across the globe.

AIDS soon will rank as mankind’s greatest scourge. And while 14th-century medicine had nothing to offer plague victims, 21st-century modern medicine does, but it doesn’t get to 95% of people with AIDS…”A total of 65 million people will have died of AIDS over 15 years. The Black Death happened 700 years ago when science was negligible. Yet despite our modern technology, today we have a disease that is killing a vast number of people. The diseases are similar because of the vast scope of death, the destruction of families, and the destruction of the economies of nations.”

What’s the worst form of terrorism on earth? About 3,000 people died in the Sept. 11 attacks. Every day, about 8,000 people die of AIDS.

Childhood sexual abuse is a subject that has received much attention in recent years. Twenty-eight to 33% of women and 12 to 18% of men were victims of childhood or adolescent sexual abuse (Roland, 2002, as cited in Long, Burnett, & Thomas, 2006). Sexual abuse that does not include touch and other types of sexual abuse are reported less often, which means this number of individuals who have been sexually abused in their childhood may actually be greater (Maltz, 2002)…

Childhood sexual abuse has been correlated with higher levels of depression, guilt, shame, self-blame, eating disorders, somatic concerns, anxiety, dissociative patterns, repression, denial, sexual problems, and relationship problems…

A study found that women survivors reported significantly more medical concerns than did people who have not experienced sexual abuse…often related to pelvic pain, gastrointestinal problems, headaches, nd difficulty swallowing (Ratican, 1992).

Stress and anxiety are often long-term effects of childhood sexual abuse…A study compared the posttraumatic stress symptoms in Vietnam veterans and adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. The study revealed that childhood sexual abuse is traumatizing and can result in symptoms comparable to symptoms from war-related trauma (McNew & Abell, 1995).

Amid the reports of rape cases and sexual predation, a new study has found that sex addiction is on the rise.This new finding revealed by researchers at the University of Minnesota states that 10 per cent of men and seven percent of women are in a constant battle to control their sexual urge and thoughts.

The research which was carried out in America shows that the number of people struggling with difficult-to-control urges is creating concern for psychologists.

Many have attributed the rise to access to explicit content online and casual sex.

Amid the reports of rape cases and sexual predation, a new study has found that sex addiction is on the rise.This new finding revealed by researchers at the University of Minnesota states that 10 per cent of men and seven percent of women are in a constant battle to control their sexual urge and thoughts.

The research which was carried out in America shows that the number of people struggling with difficult-to-control urges is creating concern for psychologists.

Many have attributed the rise to access to explicit content online and casual sex.

social sexual revolution, resulting in a massive epidemic of demonic possession, paves the way for Jesus Christ’s second coming.

The core of the global cultural revolution is the deregulation and deliberate confusion of sexual norms. The dissolution of the identity of man and woman and of the moral boundaries of sexuality through the new ideology of Gender Mainstreaming appears to bring increased freedom, but in fact it leads to the destruction of the family and the destabilization of society. This is a slippery slope to a new kind of totalitarianism.

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